Uko Aje,

You need not run away; I just asked, “How do you do?” in the Swahili language of Kenya. Truthfully, how do you do? I have come here sparingly recently, but my mind is always with you. The beauty of life is to maximise every hour that you have; as such, when there are constraints, you will know that you have put your best foot forward in the past. Today is a good day!

As I customarily do, I will start with a story. There was an old man who was not so rich but quite comfortable. He had two cars and handled them with utmost care. In fact, he did not allow his son to drive any of his cars until he returned from the mandatory National Youth Service Corps (NYSC). After a while, he took ill and passed on. These cars were used by his nephew after his death. Let’s consider Finicky vs Blasé.

Finicky is a state of being very detailed about how certain things are done. A finicky person is usually someone with very high standards. Such people have a mindset about how their surroundings should look, and they usually have a very strong memory, remembering the nitty-gritty of a lot of things. Finicky people are disliked because they leave no stone unturned in their daily lives. As a matter of fact, careers that deal with human lives require people to be finicky; otherwise, human lives will be wasted indiscriminately.

Blasé is a state of living life as it comes. The nonchalant attitude of such people typically reflects in many ways. They have a dirty environment, and it means nothing to them. They are loved by people because they don’t give a damn about how things pan out. What they often lack is organisational skills, which are crucial in other areas of life.

In all, we all need to strike a balance. A finicky person is often perceived as domineering, while a blasé person leaves everything to chance. There is a cost to both personality types; however, we really need to weigh the pros and cons of each. A lot of people hide behind the claim that they cannot change, but, interestingly, there is a school of thought that disagrees with this postulation.

If it is considered as a temperament, activate the helpful temperament that has been dormant in you, and you will be glad you did!

Have a nice weekend.

Cheers!

Olutayo